Life after law school

I’m still here. I’ve had a lot of life…stuff to catch up on, quality time with Tex being number one. Socializing would be second except for the fact that half my friends are in bar study purgatory, and the other half are, happily, gainfully employed. (I’m still working on that.) So, I’ve been doing a lot of reading, and also wedding planning. Now we’re down to the nitty gritty details of decor–bouquets, tablecloths, centerpieces, the whole nine yards. Also, waiting on invitation RSVPs.

Bridezilla break- Can I just say that I hate logistics? Contrary to what my law degree would have you think, I’m a big picture person. I’m concerned about the feel of the day. Will I be a pretty white dress? Check.  Is it a nice place and do we have an ordained minister doing the ceremony? Double check. Will my groom, family & close friends be there? Triple check. I’m pretty much done after that. I don’t give a flying [expletive deleted] what kind of bouquets the bridesmaids have. In fact, after looking into florist prices and perusing the craft shop, I decided to chuck the whole thing and have them wear corsages. My sister almost had a heart attack when I said I didn’t want to carry a bouquet. It’s completely useless, other than the toss, but Tex said I couldn’t just show up with one at the ceremony so he wore me down on that one. We’re also going to buy some nice seasonal flowering plants that the fam can take home rather than drop a grand on floral decor we’re going to have to throw away.  If people come to my wedding and the only thing they take away is that they didn’t like the food, or the centerpieces weren’t fancy enough, then screw ’em! I don’t know, I’m just not that person who goes to a wedding and says, “Hmm, beautiful couple, but the walls were a bit bare”. That’s never what I take away. I remember doing the “Thriller” choreography with my brother on the dance floor, stifling laughter as my preacher uncle hijacks the prayer into a sermonette, and hoping my own special day will be half as much fun.

Oh well. I’m praying to find a job soon; living life as a “kept woman” seems appealing but it does get boring.There’s not terribly much to clean in a 1-bedroom apartment with two adults who generally pick up after themselves, and we don’t have the budget for me to spend all day alternating between mani/pedis, massages, a personal trainer and shopping.  I’ve given myself the project of brushing up on my Spanish on Duolingo (it tests your translations backwards & forwards as well as your pronounciation via the computer mic). I may be a casual Type A, but I’m a Type A nonetheless and I like to be doing stuff….But not for free. I’ve got two degrees now and in the words of Flavor Flav, “They gots to pay me boyyyeeeee!”

Currently…

Felt like blogging but not about anything serious. Saw this circulating around as I caught up on the past few weeks of posts in my Feedly over the weekend so here goes!

 

Currently about to start cooking dinner.

Currently needing to study for my income tax exam next week…*sigh*

Currently wanting to get my diploma already #soIknowit’sreal

Current Book is the Discworld series by Terry Pratchett (a great satirical fantasy collection). I have them all in paperback but just got the digital versions, so I’m about to start re-reading them ^_^

Currently drinking water.

Current Excitement- moving in with Tex. I still have to move a few more things from my apartment and clean up for inspection, but from here on out we’re living together full time! If I knew how to do cartwheels I’d be doing them right now.

Current fashion trend I’m loving is lace. I actually just got a beautiful cerulean top with lace trim around the collar.

Current Favorite Blog is The Curvy Fashionista.

Current Food obsession is protein powder. I finally found one that doesn’t upset my stomach, now I just have to figure out the

Current Song I’m jamming to is “Pour It Up” by Rihanna. She’s not much of a singer but I love her rap steeze.

Current Indulgence is a Chick-fil-A fudge brownie since it’s getting dropped from the menu 😦

Currently Pondering whether to take out a small  bar study loan to cover the other half of my bar prep/bar application costs.

Current New Find is  Stylit.com, which sends you weekly outfit suggestions based on your personal style. Given my current employment status I need some help shopping my closet!

Currently wearing green cropped pants, a chambray shirt and plaid flats. #imfancyhuh

Current Weather is sunny, in the 70s with a light breeze.

Current Peeve is the pollen. Definitely puts a damper on my enjoyment of the spring weather.

Current Triumph is that I’ve been moving out of my apartment gradually through the semester, so I don’t have to drive home a U-Haul after graduation!

Current TV Show is Elementary, the Sherlock Holmes reboot on CBS starring Lucy Liu as Watson. I love it. Their Sherlock has all the classic traits, with a modern twist. It doesn’t feel at all derivative.

Currently Listening to an episode of Duck Dynasty that Tex is watching in the living room.

Currently delaying studying income tax. Sometimes your brain just needs a break and today is one of those times!

Currently planting seeds of success in my mind 🙂

Currently planning my post-graduation frolics! Can’t wait to hang out with my peeps.

Currently feeling anxious to be completely done with law school!

Currently loving my wedding invitations! They came out really well.

Currently looking for a J-O-B. Holla at me.

Currently finding out that half of my classmates hated law school as much as I did, they just wouldn’t admit it til now.

Currently savoring the quality time I’m getting with Tex. No more Sunday goodbyes!

Currently dreaming of my wedding day.

Hotchpot

As you may have  noticed, posting has been scarcer than usual lately. I only have one final exam this semester, I had two projects, a test and a paper to write, plus BLSA stuff and life. Things are winding down, but until I finish up with school and a have  few days to get my creative juices flowing again here’s some bits and pieces to hold you over 🙂

  • I realized that I have a stress problem. Things keep happening to me physically this year (pinched nerve flare up, sprained knee, muscle spasms, heartburn) and I finally got the connection that things only go wrong when I’m super stressed out. I literally make myself sick with worry and tension and it’s not healthy. Aside from lactose-intolerance related vitamin D deficiency, everything checked out A-ok at my physical last month- but I know that as I age and lose my youthful resilience, that won’t always be the case. So I’m committing to exercising at least 3x/week starting this holidaybreak. Exercise relaxes me, but then I get stressed and feel too tired to work out, and stay feeling stressed, and then develop some physical ache or pain that keeps me sidelined, creating more stress so the cycle continues. I don’t have an anxiety disorder, I just need to breathe and take better care of myself.
  • I think I have engagement fatigue. I can’t wait to just get married already! It’s totally irrational, but engagement is like relationship limbo to me. You’re more than a girlfriend, not quite a spouse, and we’ve known we wanted to marry each other since 18 months in to our relationship so yeah. It’s time to get the ball rolling! Fortunately, we’re taking engagement pics and looking at some venues over the break.
  • Speaking of relationships, I hate when single people act like it’s all peaches and cream once you find an SO.  Sorry to burst y’all’s bubbles, but it’s still work. Good relationships don’t stay good without a conscious effort on both sides to make it so! Listening when you feel like screaming, compromising when you feel like staging a dramatic exit, figuring out how to air your grievances without unnecessarily hurting the other person’t feelings or pride- none of that comes naturally. Engagement/marriage comes with an even bigger struggle, which is figuring out how to integrate another person into your life without losing your autonomy. Even the simplest of decisions, like weekend plans, require some forethought .
  • Voting with your wallet can be problematic. Corporations get away with terrible business practices because people continue to buy their goods and services. Prime example? Wal-Mart. Well, Costco offers the same low prices but there’s no Costco in Orangeville. It’s terribly inconvenient to time my grocery shopping around trips to the City, and even then neither Tex nor I have the storage space to buy everything in bulk. Now, Target is another option but like Walmart, they screw over their employees by making it so that you have to be available to work 24/7/365 to make it to full time. You can’t get a set shift because they change them every week. Yet, they hire thousands of temporary workers every holiday season rather than give existing staff more hours. But…it’s Target and I’m addicted 😥 And let’s not even get into the food industry. It’s all organic meat & produce once I get a full time gig!
  • Divorce sucks for women. During my practicum, I saw a woman in court with 4 kids, no degree & no job trying to get a raise on her $1750/mo child support. It takes about $1200/mo just for my bare necessities! Even if I quit working, at least I’ll have 2 degrees.
  • Pregnancy becomes downright TERRIFYING the more I learn about it. Gestational diabetes, miscarriages, not to mention the endless unsolicited advice & horror stories people give you. My mom is laying the groundwork for the Grandbaby Campaign, talmbout “there’s no perfect time to have children!” Uh…yes there is. And that time is not before I’ve been married at least two years!